Called ugly

The internet quickly caught wind of a group of young ladies involved in a brawl at Barangay Calawisan, Lapu-Lapu City. Based on statements from those seen in the video, the altercation started when one of them called another "Bati og nawong," which translates to "ugly" in English. This remark triggered the recipient, leading to an unexpected response. An investigation by the city's social welfare and development office revealed that this was not the first time such an incident had occurred. There were already pending complaints, and those involved in the video were sanctioned to perform community service.

This incident could be seen as a reflection of today’s youth. At first glance, we might immediately judge that this generation is overly preoccupied with themselves and how others perceive them. However, I believe it goes deeper than that. The previous generations may have contributed to this way of thinking. As an educator, I often find myself trying to understand where this urge to always look and feel beautiful originates. More often than not, it starts at home.

There have been numerous instances where today’s youth are compared to previous generations. The infamous "in our time" remark is frequently thrown at them, which often makes them feel inadequate or pressured to meet unrealistic standards. This can lead to feelings of inferiority, meekness, or even an overwhelming need to prove themselves. I know this because I have been there. When I was younger, I aspired to live up to the way my father did things in his youth. This led me to become overly competitive, constantly striving for perfection—often to the point of burnout.

Technology has also placed immense pressure on the younger generation. With the internet giving them access to the world, they begin setting unattainable standards for themselves, which frequently results in self-doubt and insecurity. They are led to believe they are not good enough and must do more to measure up. Often, self-acceptance comes late. Despite this, I believe it is never too late to guide and support this generation. As the generation before them, we have the opportunity to teach them valuable lessons whenever possible. I refuse to believe that they are lost causes; everything can be worked out. A strong support system can help build their confidence and make them feel that they are enough just as they are.

I sincerely hope that incidents like this do not happen again. The last thing we want is for words to escalate into bruises and violence. Parents should take a step back and reflect on their roles in raising their children. This generation is indeed different, but we can always adapt. It is our responsibility to create an environment that nurtures self-worth rather than one that forces them to prove themselves endlessly.

Let us choose to uplift rather than tear down. This way, we can hope for a future where self-worth is not dictated by fleeting insults but nurtured by genuine support and love.